Most of us agree that moving, even if it’s to a bigger and better residence, is very stressful. Let’s say that I at least, never saw a friend who moved and was cheerful and relaxed on move day.

I researched to find out why.

Moving is considered by psychologist a major life change that can be very emotional. Even if you are moving two blocks from your old house, you are leaving memories of your life experiences in your old place. I know that when we moved from my childhood apartment to our next house, it was as if I was leaving my childhood behind.

Add to the mix moving to a new neighborhood. You have to figure out the minute things that create a feeling of belonging: Finding a new market, a new coffee place maybe, school for your kids. It’s a lot to take in.

There is also the issue of throwing things away prior to the move. Many people do not like to do that. They are attached to their stuff.

And of course, the sense of chaos a day or two prior to the move, when half open boxes are around, nothing is in place and your sense of harmony and serenity is completely off!

No wonder that moving is considered one of major life changes such as losing someone near and dear, changing a job or getting married.

Many psychologists recommend to try and ease the emotional weight with some preparation ahead of time:

Establish a support network in your new place.

Don’t lose old friends of course, but try to go on Facebook and other sources such as Yahoo and look for your new neighborhood community page. Many communities have such page, and you can get advice, referrals, information, ask questions, join groups and meet new neighbors. You can start before you even move and you might be surprised.

Embrace the change. (Or make a lemonade from the lemons).

We don’t always have control over situations in our life— someone may move willingly for a new job or be forced to move to care for a sick loved one, for instance — but we do have control over how we react. Regardless of your reason for relocating, say psychologists, decide what kind of life you want to lead and create it for yourself. If you find it tough, don’t hesitate to contact a life coach or a therapist. A few meetings can be money well spent. You will get your focus back and will gain your sense of well being.